A man's inner world

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Why They Need the Cucks

Summary

Jessa Crispin explains the alt right's use of the archaic word cuckold is based on men with embattled masculinity needing to assert power by diminishing others.

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"Here, then, is the task of the twenty-first-century American man: making hierarchies that don’t put him at the bottom. The bottom is where the cucks are—because “cuck,” in its current incarnation, is an insult aimed not at men who are betrayed by women...but at men who don’t have anyone to control."

Understanding

Masculinity has traditionally been defined by how men appear and what we achieve.  My manliness score is based on the size of my body, how much money I earn and how many women I screw. As a slight-framed, government salaried, 40-years monogamous male; I'm pretty low in that pecking order. As a loser in that lottery, it's easier for me to see the limitations of traditional masculinity.

No wonder men who buy into that model find themselves lacking and look to exploit weakness in others. What a sorry use of their pain.

Do I want more power, prosperity and prowess? Not for the price I would have to pay. I will not trample others to climb to the top. I will not sacrifice the joys of togetherness for the stuff of selfishness. I will not betray love for gratification.

Rather than admiring alpha males and their wannabes, perhaps it would be better to feel compassion for them. Perhaps we should not define our manliness based on how our score ranks in a hierarchy, We could define our manliness based on the power of our helpfulness, the abundance we share and the joy we create.